Michael, I enjoyed reading about the survey on sexual teasing (and the study's limitations). I am concerned with how little detail was provided to clarify what kinds of interpersonal behavior may be considered "sexual teasing" as opposed to sexual harassment--failing to respect another's personal boundaries. Which potential intimate partner gets to decide where the line is drawn--and what are good ways for this be ethically communicated? In a future column, can you please address this important question? In our world of constantly evolving social mores, your helpful advice about this sensitive issue would be much appreciated. Thanks for all the good work you do.
Hi Jeff: You're exactly right. It can be hard to draw a line between sexual teasing and sexual harassment. All I can say is that teasing tends to be brief, a once or twice thing. Harassment is ongoing, more sinister, and often plays on power differences. Yes, social mores continue to evolve on this issue. When I'm dealing with women or in gender-mixed company, I try to be all business. No flirting. No teasing. Unless I'm close to the person/people and know they won't consider it harassment. Sorry I can't be more specific. I urge you to use your best judgment.
Michael, I enjoyed reading about the survey on sexual teasing (and the study's limitations). I am concerned with how little detail was provided to clarify what kinds of interpersonal behavior may be considered "sexual teasing" as opposed to sexual harassment--failing to respect another's personal boundaries. Which potential intimate partner gets to decide where the line is drawn--and what are good ways for this be ethically communicated? In a future column, can you please address this important question? In our world of constantly evolving social mores, your helpful advice about this sensitive issue would be much appreciated. Thanks for all the good work you do.
Hi Jeff: You're exactly right. It can be hard to draw a line between sexual teasing and sexual harassment. All I can say is that teasing tends to be brief, a once or twice thing. Harassment is ongoing, more sinister, and often plays on power differences. Yes, social mores continue to evolve on this issue. When I'm dealing with women or in gender-mixed company, I try to be all business. No flirting. No teasing. Unless I'm close to the person/people and know they won't consider it harassment. Sorry I can't be more specific. I urge you to use your best judgment.