I have never ever in my life been able to have an orgasm with just fingers or mouth. I have to have dick (combined with grinding) or I have to have a vibrator pressed against my clit. Believe me, I've tried everything possible, and so have all my partners. I have slept with so many people I don't even remember them all -- it's not a matter of just not having ever met somebody who knows that they're doing.
I’m very sorry to hear that you've had problems with orgasm for so long. What a drag. Please know that you’re not alone in this, or abnormal, inadequate, or weird. You’re you, a woman who has problems with this corner of life. I’m very glad there are vibrators to help you climax. Here’s to vibes—and your orgasms!
Like many others who bought Rachel Maine's book, I believed this theory about the history of the vibrators. However, I recently learned that this theory has been discredited. https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Failure-of-Academic-Quality-Control-Technology-of-Orgasm-Lieberman-Schatzberg.pdf
Also, this was recently published:
https://open.substack.com/pub/carlynbeccia/p/did-doctors-really-masturbate-their?r=5eu30&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email
Thank you for sharing these links Suzanne, I had no idea!
I have never ever in my life been able to have an orgasm with just fingers or mouth. I have to have dick (combined with grinding) or I have to have a vibrator pressed against my clit. Believe me, I've tried everything possible, and so have all my partners. I have slept with so many people I don't even remember them all -- it's not a matter of just not having ever met somebody who knows that they're doing.
I’m very sorry to hear that you've had problems with orgasm for so long. What a drag. Please know that you’re not alone in this, or abnormal, inadequate, or weird. You’re you, a woman who has problems with this corner of life. I’m very glad there are vibrators to help you climax. Here’s to vibes—and your orgasms!
Well, I have plenty of orgasms. I just don’t have them the way everyone else does. Still mystified how oral works for anybody.