In a loving relationship, the man’s job is to create an erotic context that’s comfortable, relaxed, and sufficiently arousing so the woman can let go and climax.
If the man can keep his body close enough to the woman's while they're having sex (I mean, not just jackhammering away practically detached from the rest of her body the whole time, not once making enough clitoral contact to make a difference), there's more likelihood of the rest of his body stimulating her clitoris while they're having penetrative sex, leading to orgasm. I say this because I have many women friends who complain about not being able to orgasm during sex but who then describe their sex lives exactly like the constant jackhammering I described above. I can't help but see a connection.
Wanted to add that lubricants are not a one-size-fits-all, especially as many of them feature harmful chemicals that can produce thrush and irritate the vagina. The main culprits in many products are glycerin, glycols, parabens, dyes, perfumes and alcohol. Oils break down condoms so are to be avoided if you want to have safe sex and generally the only one that doctors I know recommend using is coconut oil (not with condoms). As an older woman, I've experienced my fair share of BV which can be hard to cure, and so I'm very aware of the products I use inside my vagina and on my vulva.
What is the big deal about orgasms? It's like that is the Endgame. The finish. The proof that you are a man. Ladies, get your own orgasm and, then, let's proceed in making Love.
Did you get a goddam letter jacket with an “O” on it?
I dated a hot Mormon woman, first woman that told me she couldn’t easily orgasm from intercourse. Needless to say it was a bump in the road and I got her to the needed destination with not too much additional effort.
We have to remember that some women don't know how to orgasm, even if they say that they do.
For the first few months of our relationship my ex would tell me when to stop, having juddered slightly and caught her breath. She said she'd orgasmed, feeling the same sensation she always felt when masturbating.
Then one day, experimenting with light bondage and giving her oral sex, she forgot the safe word.
Having previously agreed that I wasn't to stop until she said it, when she asked me to stop I waited and then carried on because she didn't say it (it was “Basingstoke”, as in the line from a Gilbert and Sullivan opera “some word with hidden depth and meaning like Basingstoke”) and she had her first ever Petit Mort.
Of course I immediately stopped, untied her, by this time she was coming round, her first comment was “it was like I died in world war 3”.
She realised that what she had previously thought of as her orgasm was just part of the build up.
Of course after that she knew what to expect and how to produce it both as part of our sex life and her solo play.
Such good resources here! What you said about half time is a good rule of thumb. So many women will just shut down if they are touched on their clitoris before being adequately aroused. Tease her!
My favorite lube is Good Clean Love that is 95% organic and doctor recommended. I have it arrive monthly on a subscription. Worth every penny!
Worth reading...🙌🙌🙌
If the man can keep his body close enough to the woman's while they're having sex (I mean, not just jackhammering away practically detached from the rest of her body the whole time, not once making enough clitoral contact to make a difference), there's more likelihood of the rest of his body stimulating her clitoris while they're having penetrative sex, leading to orgasm. I say this because I have many women friends who complain about not being able to orgasm during sex but who then describe their sex lives exactly like the constant jackhammering I described above. I can't help but see a connection.
+1 on the need for full body contact!
Wanted to add that lubricants are not a one-size-fits-all, especially as many of them feature harmful chemicals that can produce thrush and irritate the vagina. The main culprits in many products are glycerin, glycols, parabens, dyes, perfumes and alcohol. Oils break down condoms so are to be avoided if you want to have safe sex and generally the only one that doctors I know recommend using is coconut oil (not with condoms). As an older woman, I've experienced my fair share of BV which can be hard to cure, and so I'm very aware of the products I use inside my vagina and on my vulva.
Is sex the only way to Nirvana?
What is the big deal about orgasms? It's like that is the Endgame. The finish. The proof that you are a man. Ladies, get your own orgasm and, then, let's proceed in making Love.
Did you get a goddam letter jacket with an “O” on it?
I dated a hot Mormon woman, first woman that told me she couldn’t easily orgasm from intercourse. Needless to say it was a bump in the road and I got her to the needed destination with not too much additional effort.
We have to remember that some women don't know how to orgasm, even if they say that they do.
For the first few months of our relationship my ex would tell me when to stop, having juddered slightly and caught her breath. She said she'd orgasmed, feeling the same sensation she always felt when masturbating.
Then one day, experimenting with light bondage and giving her oral sex, she forgot the safe word.
Having previously agreed that I wasn't to stop until she said it, when she asked me to stop I waited and then carried on because she didn't say it (it was “Basingstoke”, as in the line from a Gilbert and Sullivan opera “some word with hidden depth and meaning like Basingstoke”) and she had her first ever Petit Mort.
Of course I immediately stopped, untied her, by this time she was coming round, her first comment was “it was like I died in world war 3”.
She realised that what she had previously thought of as her orgasm was just part of the build up.
Of course after that she knew what to expect and how to produce it both as part of our sex life and her solo play.
Everyone should read this.
Well tell her to get that bloody awful underwear off, for starters!
Such good resources here! What you said about half time is a good rule of thumb. So many women will just shut down if they are touched on their clitoris before being adequately aroused. Tease her!
My favorite lube is Good Clean Love that is 95% organic and doctor recommended. I have it arrive monthly on a subscription. Worth every penny!
Seven: buy her a vibrating dildo
Give her 1 million 6 times. She will have not only 6 orgasms, but many more with many others.