Penis Size: How To Be As Large As Possible—Safely
Size doesn’t matter to the vast majority of women. Of course, an extra inch couldn’t hurt.
Ask any credible sexologist about penis size, and you hear three words: It doesn’t matter. But size matters a great deal to many (most?) men. Why the disconnect? Many reasons. Are there any safe, effective ways to increase size? Yes.
Size Doesn’t Matter (?)
Here’s why sexologists say size doesn’t matter. Any size penis can provide great pleasure for the man it’s attached to. An estimated 95 percent of penises are average size (3 to 5 inches flaccid, 5 to 7 inches erect). Very few are significantly larger or smaller. When women are asked what they want in a lover, they consistently mention kindness, caring, listening, sense of humor, and shared interests and values. Very few mention penis size. Finally, sex therapists report that women clients almost never complain about their partner’s size. As a result, most sexologists say, “Size doesn’t matter.”
But many (most?) men feel very differently. They’ve compared themselves to the huge penises they’ve seen on porn actors and have concluded: Mine’s much smaller. They’ve received junk emails for enlargement products. They’ve seen the Casual Sex ads on Craigslist looking for men with huge ones. They’re convinced that size is key to women’s pleasure and orgasm because a big one stretches the vagina more. And if you add up all the authoritative sex education messages men receive, they amount to a thimbleful of water in a vast ocean of porn whose message is that hot sex is all about having a huge penis.
Let me reiterate. Size doesn’t matter to the vast majority of women. Of course, an extra inch couldn’t hurt. If you want to be bigger safely:
• Don’t fall for any enlargement products, no matter how convincing the hype! No pill, potion, or exercise program can permanently enlarge the penis. All these products are ineffective, expensive, cynical frauds.
• Surgery? I wouldn’t. It’s problematic. Lengthening surgery cuts the ligament that makes erections stand up. Lengthening surgery adds an inch, but erections no longer salute. They just hang between your legs and must be manually directed into erotic openings. Girth-enhancement takes fat from the buttocks and injects it under the penis skin, often producing lumpy, deformed-looking penises. Many surgeons specialize in operations to correct the deformed penises that result from girth-enhancing surgery. Enlargement surgery is also costly—around $15,000, and health insurance doesn’t pay for it. You must pay out of pocket.
• Quit smoking. Flaccid or erect, size depends on the amount of blood in the organ. Less blood means a smaller penis. Smoking narrows the arteries, including those that carry blood into the penis. Smoking limits blood flow into the penis, which makes it smaller. Smoking is also strongly associated with erectile dysfunction. If you have trouble quitting, talk to your doctor.
• Exercise regularly. Exercise improves arterial health, which allows more blood to flow into the penis. But exercising the penis itself is pointless. The sex media sometimes refer to the penis as the “love muscle,” which implies that like the biceps, certain exercises can buff it up. But there are different kinds of muscle tissue. The penis contains smooth muscle, which doesn’t get bigger with exercise.
• Eat less meat and more fruits the vegetables. A diet high in animal fat raises cholesterol, which narrows the arteries, including the ones that carry blood into the penis. Try going a day or two a week without meat or whole-milk dairy products (cheese, ice cream, yogurt). And eat five to eight daily servings of fruits and vegetables. They are rich in antioxidants that help keep the arteries open.
• Lose the pot belly. Exercise, less meat and dairy, and more plants foods help men lose weight, which also helps penis size. A big belly encroaches on the base of the penis, making the organ look smaller. Lose abdominal fat, and your penis looks larger.
• Embrace meditative relaxation. The arteries the carry blood into the penis are surrounded by smooth muscle tissue. When men feel anxious, this tissue contracts, which constricts the arteries and reduces blood flow into the penis, and therefore its size. But as men relax deeply, these muscles relax, opening the arteries, maximizing blood flow, and boosting size, (Erection drugs work by relaxing these muscles.)
In addition, anxiety triggers the “fight or flight” reflex, which sends blood away from the central body, including the penis, and out toward the limbs for escape or self-defense. As men relax, more blood becomes available to the penis.
• Stay warm. You’ve probably noticed that in chilly locker rooms, your penis seems to shrink. But after a hot shower, it looks larger. Warmth is relaxing and increases blood inflow and size. Before sex, bathe or shower with your lover.
Beyond these approaches, here are two ways to enhance size temporarily:
• Cock Rings. These rubber donut-shaped devices tightly encircle the erect penis. Typically used to help maintain erection, they also provide a small—and temporary—size boost. Flaccid or erect, blood circulates in and out of the penis. One of the veins that carries blood out runs close to the organ’s skin (on top). A ring restricts outflow somewhat by compressing this vein. Don’t expect miracles. Any effect is modest and temporary.
• Penis pumps. These plastic tubes create a partial vacuum around the penis. The vacuum draws blood into the organ, resulting in temporary size enhancement. Models differ, but all include a plastic tube and a pump operated by a hand bulb. You squeeze the bulb, which evacuates air from the tube, drawing a little extra blood into the penis. Just remember, the effect is modest and temporary. Penis pumps are available from sex toy catalogues. Custom-fitted pumps are available through urologists. They usually work better than the one-size-fits-all pumps available from sex toy marketers.
Now that you know how to be all you can be, guys, I’m here to explain that men hung up on size are clueless about great sex. Any size penis can bring its owner great pleasure. But the best way to impress women erotically is to give them pleasure without using your penis. Only a small proportion of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse no matter what the man’s size, or how long intercourse lasts. So size, endurance, and vaginal stretching are not direct routes to women’s pleasure and orgasm. The vast majority of women need direct, gentle, patient clitoral stimulation with a hand, tongue, or toy. In many surveys, most women say their favorite way to work up to orgasm is to receive gentle, extended oral sex. (cunnilingus).
“It's a real shame that penis size hang-ups make so many men feel inadequate,” says the late sex educator Betty Dodson, Ph.D. “I urge men to make peace with their penises. It’s fine as it is. Enjoy what you’ve got, and you'll be a happier lover—and probably a better lover. To be a really great lover, understand that most women enjoy gentle, well-lubricated intercourse, but what makes them come is direct clitoral caresses. Forget huge ones. Give me an enthusiastic tongue on my clit any time.”
Questions & Answers
I’ve answered more than 12,000 sex questions from people around the world, of all ages, for free. Here are a few that relate to the topic of this post. If you’d like to ask me a question of your own, please go to GreatSexGuidance.com.
A story you’ve heard before. One of her exes was bigger, and she recalls the sex was better. Somehow current man finds out. She wants him to put it out of his mind; she loves him dearly. He loves her too, but now feels he will be forever humiliated if he stays with her. Read more and my response…
My wife has expressed a desire for a larger penis. She says she wants to feel more full. I am only 5 inches. She has a larger vulva. It was large before she gave birth and after was larger. Read more and my response…
How do you get women to stop believing their partner has to have a large penis? I have been told by past girlfriends that I have a small penis and they are breaking up with me to find someone with a large penis. People say size doesn’t matter and yet women seem to go for the guy that has the largest bulge in their pants. Why is that? Read more and my response…
Can wearing really tight underwear make your penis smaller? I feel like that’s happening to me. Read my response…