Fun with Blindfolds, Especially When Worn By Women
Blindfolds are considered BDSM toys, but you don’t have to be into restraint or power play to enjoy them. Just slip one on your lover (or yourself) and let the fun begin.
As sex toys go, blindfolds are nowhere near as popular as vibrators, but they offer wonderfully erotic sexual enhancement—especially (in heterosexual couples) when worn by the woman.
Men Love To Watch, Woman Love Touch
Sexologists agree that of the five senses, most men get most turned on by what they see, notably, women in sexy outfits and the gyrations of pornography. It’s no coincidence that the vast majority of lingerie is worn by women to please men, or that the vast majority of porn is consumed by men. Men love to watch sexually charged visual images.
Sexologists also agree that the sense most women find most arousing is sensual touch. It’s the feel of intimacy that excites women: silk on the skin, a hot bath, spa treatments, a massage, warm fuzzy robes, and extended kissing and cuddling with lots of gentle caresses all over, not just focused on the breasts and genitals.
As a result, sex with the woman blindfolded is often a win-win. He gets to see her in all her glory, and deprived of sight, she can focus more deeply on the joy of being touched.
Of course, some men enjoy being blindfolded. That’s perfectly normal. Have fun however you like. But deprived of sight, men can’t see their beautiful lovers’ faces, breasts, butts, hips, and vulvas, and feel aroused by them.
Meanwhile, some women don’t care for being blindfolded, also perfectly normal. But blindfold most women, and they can often turn inward and find that it helps them experience loving touch more erotically.
Try combining blindfold play with slow, sensual, whole-body massage. If you feel at all unsure of how to give a good massage, use the Erotic Massage, by erotic massage pioneer, Ray Stubbs. The book and video are available from Amazon.com. They can turn anyone into a fine masseur or masseuse in a couple hours. Be sure to use plenty of massage lotion.
And let’s not forget how blindfolds fire the imagination. Deprived of sight, many people find it easier to fantasize situations that turn them on.
Blindfolds are considered BDSM toys, but you don’t have to be into restraint or power play to enjoy them. Just slip one on your lover (or yourself) and let the fun begin.
Meanwhile, some people feel curious about BDSM but are reluctant to play that way. If you’re among them, a blindfold might be a comfortable, yet highly arousing way to begin kinky explorations. Blindfold play incorporates the dominant-submissive element of power-exchange role-playing without the intense sensations of heavier BDSM. Blindfolds also provide an opportunity for the top to be nurturing because a blindfolded sub is vulnerable, and a loving dom keeps his (or her) sub safe from harm.
Blindfolds are also discreet. If children, family, or friends happen to see a blindfold on your nightstand, it’s easy to explain that you sleep better that way. It’s not so easy explaining vibrators or handcuffs.
Another advantage is that blindfolds are easily portable and take up almost no space. Vibrators and many BDSM toys can take up considerable space in luggage—and if you travel abroad, do you want nosy customs agents finding them? Blindfolds travel easily and allow you to have a little bit of sexy spice wherever you go.
Blindfolds are inexpensive and available at drug stores and from sex toy catalogs.
Questions & Answers
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